It is important to remember that the primary purpose of marriage is to to be happy and serene.
So, although the list below may seem daunting, never forget it!
If life seems stressful to you, then try changing your perception.
Indeed, you are the only person who can transform your stress into peace.
If you feel unhappy, look for the things in life that make you happy.
The only way to live in peace is to feel serene.
Remember, the only person you can change is yourself!
Even if we don't forget that, in a couple, everyone must take their share of responsibility for the success of a marriage ...
Below we have listed the 10 mistakes that men commit most often.
Read on to learn more about male behaviors that can completely destroy a marriage:
One of the fastest ways to destroy your marriage is to leave your wife alone.
Like, for example, spending long hours at work and then going out for a beer with friends.
And, when you go home, you don't take care of her or your children.
Instead, you wallow in front of a football game or in front of your computer to make online bets.
And the weekend ? You complain about the mess at home.
And if you go shopping, it's to disappear for several hours.
Do you know that one of the most difficult things for a woman to live with is this feeling of isolation when her husband leaves her?
Yes, your wife has friends and a job.
She spends a lot of time running around with the kids.
A woman can of course practice activities without her husband. But it's not the same thing.
What she wants is to spend time with you, the man she loves. Being abandoned by her husband can cause her deep sorrow.
For most women, the greatest fear comes down to isolation and deprivation.
When a wife feels abandoned by her husband, she tends to attack him with hurtful and disrespectful remarks.
Her ability to verbally hurt you is her most powerful weapon, and she uses it to try to get your attention.
When a woman starts harassing you for not spending enough time at home...
Or because you never go out with her and never take care of the children...
Chances are she feels abandoned and isolated.
If you stop spending time together, the emotional distance between you quickly becomes apparent.
Your wife loves being close to you. If she thinks it's different for you, your marriage is in danger.
While you strive to maintain your independence, she wants to feel connected to you.
Don't just be loving and caring with her on the days you want her or need her.
Affection and closeness should be an end in itself and not a means to something else. Talking isn't the only thing women enjoy, although it is important.
Here are some simple ideas to keep your wife happy:kiss her often, hold her hand, and spend time alone with her.
When her need for closeness is fulfilled, she will be more inclined to respect your need for independence.
When your wife feels close to you, she'll also be more willing to get down with you on a more intimate level.
The important thing to remember is to help her feel connected. Try telling him about your day, your fears and hopes and dreams.
Hold her hand when you're dating. Kiss her unexpectedly in the kitchen as she cooks dinner.
Sit next to her. Ask her how she's doing, and for a few minutes give her your full attention while she answers you.
Theselittle touches will really show him that you love him. Marriage is a long road that you have to know how to maintain.
Women are whole . Their mind, body and soul are closely intertwined .
If they feel hurt, the whole system is affected.
A woman whose mind is preoccupied can easily suffer from fatigue and trouble. Men know how to compartmentalize.
Men are able to live normally even if one area of their life is not working properly.
Also know that your wife does not understand your behavior when you withdraw and become mysterious.
Things seem to glide over you and nothing seems to bother you.
You don't want to talk to her when she knows you're stressed about work.
When she questions you, your wife isn't trying to get into your brain to find out everything that's going on.
She just wants you to be more open.
She wants to see you as you really are inside.
She feels your love and would like you to share your fears, fears and doubts with her.
She needs to feel that she is also your confidante in difficult times.
Don't think she's trying to change you or "fix" you. She is just there to give you an attentive ear.
Try talking to him about what's going on in your head, including your worries.
The women between them love to let off steam verbally without necessarily trying to find a solution to the problem.
All she wants is to give you an opportunity to express yourself verbally.
Even if she doesn't always say it, your wife sees you as "her strength". As the bearer of his burdens.
When she comes to you looking for your help to ease her worries, it should come as a compliment.
She knows you can help her, she knows you can handle this.
But beware ! Rather than trying to solve and fix all of his problems, try to just listen to him.
You can even ask her if she really needs a solution to her problem or just an attentive ear.
You will see, it will be a relief for both of you.
You'll find that sometimes you don't need to address all the issues that come up during your conversations.
Just talking about it is more than enough.
Also, if you listen to her, she'll feel understood (even if you don't, which isn't that bad after all).
All marriages have ups and downs.
Know that refusing to apologize is a quick way to destroy yours.
Although conflict is not a pleasant thing, know that your complicity can come out of it once the conflict is resolved.
For your wife, apologizing means she has taken a step out of the conflict.
She is now searching for inner peace.
Many husbands see apologies as a sign of weakness. They're like, "If I apologize, she won't respect me anymore."
However, it is exactly the opposite.
If you humbly apologize and ask her forgiveness, your wife will be more understanding.
Your small act of contrition will soothe his spirit, and will act as a healing balm on his heart and your couple.
Plus, it shows you're open.
You want to put effort into making things work between you and that your marriage is important enough to you to admit your mistakes.
Finally, it shows that you are able to evolve and move on to make your marriage stronger.
Your wife attaches great importance to your commitment.
When she sees you watching other women on the street, on TV, on your computer, or anywhere else, she worries that you might be unfaithful to her.
This may make her uncomfortable.
She will obviously wonder if you are attracted to these women.
Especially if on her side, she only looks at you!
In any case, she is fragile and needs your comfort. Not to be put down, ignored or teased.
All of this devalues your wife and her very real feelings.
When you stare at a cute young lady walking by...
It's like a reminder to your wife about her many imperfections.
She feels insecure.
And she wants to know if you still love her, because for her, this kind of behavior is not really reassuring...
It's not abnormal to look at other women, in fact, it's perfectly natural.
But danger arises when you're caught in the act and don't look away.
It shows that you don't care about your wife's feelings or her discomfort.
Your wife is motivated by your love and faithfulness.
She is involved in your relationship, and wants to feel that you are just as involved as she is.
When your wife feels insecure, she may ask you if you are thinking of her. She may ask you if you love her.
She may ask you if you think another woman is more attractive than her.
She may also ask you a lot of questions, but don't worry, it's not a trap.
She's just trying to open up to you, asking a question and starting a conversation. Talking, discussing, it's his way of knowing, of understanding.
She is looking for proof of your love and loyalty.
Rather than trying to avoid this situation, consider watching it instead.
Yes ! To really look at it.
Tell her she's the most beautiful woman you've ever seen.
Give her the assurance she seeks, and the peace to calm her troubled mind.
Your wife doesn't necessarily want jewelry or a very expensive meal.
Admittedly, sometimes it's the icing on the cake, especially if you like to shower her with gifts. However, it is far from always essential!
Indeed, she will feel much more loved thanks to small gestures that show your love and care on a daily basis.
Do you neglect these little touches?
She might think you're trying to buy her affection - or ease your own guilt - with expensive things.
Instead, let her know you're thinking about her during the day. A single rose when you come home says a lot about your love.
Call or text her during the day to let her know you're thinking of her.
Offer to help with dinner or the dishes. They are small gifts of your time that mean a lot to your wife.
For your wife, the most important days of the year are very often her birthday and your wedding anniversary.
Celebrate these days together by spending time just the two of you.
It will mean more than any other expensive gift. The cost is secondary.
What matters is the intention you put into it. She wants to feel special and important to you.
The way to help her feel loved is to spend time alone with her.
Even if you sit at home to watch a movie, give it your full attention.
When you confuse sex with intimacy, it's not very pleasant.
When you focus only on your own orgasm, it's not very pleasant.
When you only show interest in your woman when you want her, it's not very pleasant.
When you devalue your intimate relationships with rude and dirty jokes, it's not very pleasant.
When you expect her to be instantly turned on, that's not very nice either.
Finally, when you neglect your woman's sexual needs, it's not very pleasant.
When you're married, sex is supposed to be fun.
Intimacy is designed to bring you closer, sex should cement your relationship.
To illustrate this, imagine your wife as a slow cooker. You, you are a microwave.
Put a meal in a microwave, and you'll be eating in 3 min. On the other hand, a meal cooking in the slow cooker takes much longer.
You have to put the proper ingredients together, then cook, and wait.
And only after six or eight hours you can enjoy yourself.
Your wife needs just as much attention and consideration.
Start the morning with a kiss. Tell her she's beautiful.
A woman never tires of hearing this phrase from the man she loves.
Help kids get ready for school.
After work, ask her questions to find out how her day went.
Take the time, that's the key word!
If you want to mix pleasure and sex, consider the slow cooker, not the microwave!
You can microwave, but only in the shower;-)
When you lock yourself in your despair, ruminating, your wife begins to be afraid.
Women like to talk about things. Men tend to withdraw.
When you feel stressed about work, money, your relationship, you close in on yourself.
This causes fear of being abandoned as well as rejection in your wife.
When you refuse to talk to her, she'll think you don't love her anymore.
This fear, and her desire to resolve conflicts, will cause your wife to pester you with questions.
She wants to talk about it with you, not to denigrate or put you down, but just to feel closer to you.
She wants you to trust her.
If you stay away from her to avoid discussing what's bothering you, she knows something is wrong.
And she'll start to assume that she's the problem...
But you have the power to avert the looming catastrophe.
How? 'Or' What ? By opening up to your wife. She loves You. You can trust him.
Share what's on your mind with her, and she'll open her heart to you, too.
Whether we're talking about addiction, adultery or professional error, men often blame their wives.
"I drink because she's hysterical.
I cheated on her because she didn't know how to take care of me. I don't get ahead in my work because she never encourages me."
Stop! It's time to take responsibility for your behavior . Know how to be responsible for your actions.
You choose to drink. It was you who chose to deceive her.
It's up to you to work or not work hard enough to move up the ladder.
You consciously do all these things, no one forced you. Rather than blaming someone or something, assume!
Be the reflection of the values you defend. Your life is entirely in your control.
Today you can choose to live differently t. You can create exactly the life you want.
Also, if your wife really is the root of all your problems, then take control and have the courage to tell her the truth.
She won't be able to change if you don't explain the problem to her.
A tormented woman, who goes from one bad relationship to another, will continue to suffer even after your marriage.
A finicky woman who criticizes all your decisions will continue to look for the little beast.
A woman who always wants to control everything will do the same after marriage.
The thing to remember is simple.
If this woman is not made for you before marriage, it will not change after marriage, she will keep her faults. Know it!
If you want a nice woman, date a nice woman and marry her. Treat her with love and respect, and she will reciprocate.
Trying to save a woman in pain will only make you feel used and underappreciated.
A strong marriage begins with goodwill on both sides, in both the man and the woman.
A marriage flourishes when you grow together in love and respect for each other.
Choosing the wrong woman is the best way to end up failing every time.
You may of course like the feeling of being a knight serving to save a desperate damsel.
But the reality is that this marriage with her will be much more difficult and much less romantic than you think.
Marriage is a full-time job, both for husband and wife.
When both have the will to make this marriage a good experience, then it has a much greater chance of succeeding.
Although this list may seem daunting, it is important to remember that the main purpose of marriage is to be peaceful and happy.
If life seems stressful to you, work to change your perception.
Remember that only you have the power to perceive peace where there is stress.
Do not be discouraged, because it is enough to change this unique perception to have a peaceful life.
If you feel unhappy, look for something that will fulfill you in life and be happy.
The easiest way to do this is to just be yourself.
Never forget:the only person you can change is yourself!
